Just the other day, another woman reached out to me after a recent break up. “I gave him the best years of my life,” she told me. So many women believe this lie that is simple not true. You choose the best years of your life, and whether they are behind you or yet to come.

Yes, you are not getting any younger, but youth doesn’t determine happiness. Our experiences and our attitude do. By learning and applying timeless relationship principles, you can choose to make the future brighter by avoiding another relationship destined to end in heartache.

Many people feel that once you get to a certain age, our bad habits, like smoking, over eating, or falling into bad relationships are an unchangeable part of us, and we resign ourselves to the related outcome. How many times have you heard someone say something like, “It’s too late for me to quit smoking.” Or, “I’m too old to get back in shape.”

We are never too old and it is never too late to choose to fix our bad habits and change our lives. I knew an 83 year old man whose health was so poor that he rarely left the house. Some members of his church taught him how he could quit smoking. With their support, he was able to give up this habit he had held onto for years. Weeks later, he was out golfing with his friends for the first time in years.

Isn’t it amazing how taking action changed his life and allowed him to enjoy things again? It is possible, if one follows the necessary steps to really change. The only sad part is that he didn’t quit sooner and wasted years of his life confined to his house.

In relationships, the best years of your life cannot be determined by age. A lady I know found herself single again. Instead of shutting down and refusing to go on, she continued finding ways to enjoy her life. Due to her active lifestyle, she eventually married again- in her 80’s! She and her new husband have a great life together, including riding their motorcycles around the country.

When people in their 80’s are able to change and find meaningful relationships, it leaves little excuse for the rest of us. All it really requires is understanding how to make real changes and having a good attitude. No one can take the best years of your life. You can choose to be positive and let go of bad habits. If you do, you best years are always ahead.

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