Discover the mysteries of love in a relationship

Being in a relationship isn’t just about getting married and having kids. It’s about love and companionship. However when you were growing up thats probably as good an explanation you got for men and women being together. The old birds and the bees story. Of course as we mature, we soon realise that is not the case but we are still none the wiser in the ups and downs that being in a relationship can bring. You will have so many questions, is he the one? Is this just physical or is this love? None of the more popular sources that people seek advice from seem to help either. With the abundance of happily ever after romantic movies and music videos. Over the next few paragraphs I will disect two very common views about finding the right person for a relationship. I have chosen two entirely different tradtions but both show the importance of not following any rigid structure about how to make your relationship work.

When two become one!

The idea that there is a person out there that you are meant to be with has been around for many years. This soul mate concept is basically the idea that you are one half of a soul and the other half of this soul is out there in someone else, your soul mate. Eventually, the two will meet and become one. There can be some drawbacks to this notion. Especially given the fact that no relationship is endless. However some have the view that the whole idea of finding your soul mate can lead you to understand yourself better and this to me is the most important part of the concept and where the true benefits lie.

Relationships that are pre-arranged

The second tradtion I am going to mention is that of an arranged marriage. Lets not confuse this with forced marriage. Arranged marriages occur with the general agreement of all members of the family. This type of relationship involves no getting to know one another before embarking on a life together. Instead partners love for each other is said to grow day by day. Again there are both positives and negatives from this. The concept that partners love will grow can be very healthy and stop any misinterpreted hopes of grand romantic gestures etc that are shown to us in the movies. The negatives of this though are that unfortunately some parents use this as an opportunity for their own gains in family politics and do not have their childs best interests at heart.

Gathering information from these relationships

So if you are not even more unsure after reading this then I hope you can see we have a lot to learn from these two examples. It is a very common perception today that love is purely about romantic gestures and what we have seen from films is how love really is. It is, in actual fact far from the only way, as these two examples show and it is very important that we realise this and not set ourselves up for disappointment if we don’t get it.

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