If there was ever a balancing act in our lives, it’s the one in which we have to balance our desires, and our beliefs.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

It is natural to strive to stand firm in what we believe and for most Christian men, staying within the boundaries of the church is essential for their experience of love.

One of those boundaries is that sex should only happen once married.

I don’t judge this tenant. Some people choose to follow it. I believe this is just as valid as the people who choose not to follow it.

Ancient philosophy informs us that partaking of sex with one another mingles a piece of our soul with the other and then continues with us forever.

Keeping your virginity for your wife is a wise choice since this is true in some respects.

But this presents a unique challenge for those men out there who wish to stay true to their faith.

How do continue to attract a woman and foster a relationship if you have to wait until marriage to consummate it?

Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.

This advice is helpful for those men who face the emergence of blending faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Keep in mind that things will be easier when you clarify your beliefs, since it is your faith, which guides you through your life.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is you believe, and stick to it!

2. Be aware that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Since you have free will, you have to take action while striving to take advantage of all opportunities presented to you. Remember, God can only do so much.

Learn to be proactive in finding the right woman for you.

Since your actions are belief based on the path God that has set before you, you have to make it happen. This means going out to meet women, dating and getting to know the woman. Remember this is not something that just happens.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

Many people have a notion that virginity is something to be prized, but it really isn’t. Sex is just an act. It’s just like breathing, or walking, or exercising. It is something we do.

Gods intention is for man to be fruitful and multiply, this means sex. It is one of the greatest gifts from God; his intention is for us to have sex, this is why sex is pleasurable.

Virginity maybe a sacred in some respects, however the way we think about it is confusing. Virginity is meant to be lost, the challenge however, in in finding the right person to whom with to share it.

Sex of course is an aspect of spirituality. It is one in which you find the person who makes you feel alive, loved and completed. This is distinct from the sexual act, since it vibrates within a higher level of your soul.

It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve before marriage, because this will help you to know if the physical aspect will be in tune as well.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Look at women as real people, and do not put them on a pedestal.

When you place too much importance on blending sex and faith, you may find yourself inflating the importance of a woman.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

We can easily love an ideal, yet our challenge is to love the reality of a woman. When she is hungry, she may be cranky, she awakens each day with morning breath and she expects you to take out the garbage, this is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

You will develop a clearer perspective when you realize that as humans women are just like you in many ways; this helps you to determine if they fit into your life plan.

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