When you’ve just had a blowout with your partner and you suddenly find yourself alone and calling him your ex…it’s a rough time where most people just want to find a way to pull the pieces back together and get life back to how it was. Unfortunately, it’s not exactly easy to figure out what to do to make that happen, which is why I’ve written this short list to help you out.

1) I know it seems like the last thing you’d want to do to get him back, but cutting off contact with your ex for about a month is actually surprisingly effective for a number of reasons. No matter what your situation, the separation will make the time you spend actively pursuing him a lot easier, and more likely to succeed.

2) How people in movies deal with breakups isn’t how it works in real life. Pining away on your couch until your friends come rescue you is a fantasy that looks appealing but rarely happens. Your recovery is up to YOU, so don’t waste your time and your life by holing up in a darkened room and crying yourself to sleep every day. You have to take action and take control of your own life!

3) Nothing helps to heal like having a good friend or three or six to support you during a rough time like this, so make sure to hang out with people who care about you and make you happy. Just don’t take advantage of their sympathy by whining for hours on end about your breakup and your ex…there’s only so much even Mother Teresa could take before enough becomes enough.

4) Don’t waste your month of freedom from your ex by sinking into a depression…take advantage of your time for taking steps to get your life back on track. Do whatever makes you feel good, and now is a great time to do self-improvement things you’ve always put off, like starting an exercise program or other healthy resolutions. When you can accept that your life isn’t over without your ex, you’ll find that working to get him back can only result in your life getting even better!

5) When you’re working to get your ex back, make sure you’re not depending on anyone but yourself. You’re the only one who can make sure this all goes according to plan, because you’re the only one you can count on. Don’t trust your ex to take part in this or do as you want him to…you’ll have to make allowances for things he may do and take care to do the things that are sure to cause him to do what you need him to do. Remember, any sacrifices made for the two of you will have to be made by you…it’s unfair, but it’s how it is.

6) Don’t get too comfortable in your new relationship with your ex, and fall into the common blunder of reverting to your old behaviors. Getting too relaxed and thinking the battle is over once you’ve gotten him back is a deadly mistake that can ruin all you’ve worked so hard for. When you change something, it has to stay changed…letting it slide back to the old way will just leave you where you started.

The main thing I’ve been trying to get across is that your life isn’t over when you lose a loved one…you can get over the pain and get him back if you just put yourself into it. Motivation and perseverance will help you win the day, and it isn’t just possible to win your ex back…the odds are in your favor! Now go get him back!

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